The world would have you believe your options are limited by your circumstances.
You have exactly as much power of your life as you’re willing to exact.
You Have Choices
If you want a better job, go get it. There is a formula that works for getting a better job. Run it.
If you want to live in a different city, sell all your shit and move. If you really examine your life, there are fewer excuses holding you back than you let on.
If you want a different car, go buy one. Yes. It may be a dumb financial move. But that doesn’t mean you can’t.
If you’re in a shitty relationship, end it. You don’t have to be in one at all. If it adds meaning to your life, fly solo until you find someone who enhances your life. And don’t settle.
If you’re broke, you can earn and save more money. As fast as you want to and depending on how bad you’re willing to work for it.
Kill Your Excuses
Whatever you want, you have the capacity to go get it. The first and hardest part is to kill your excuses.
How do you do this? Start by examining the assumptions that are holding you back.
Take your job, for example. Maybe you’ve felt it’s time for the next big thing. Why haven’t you done it yet? Is it the steady paycheck? That you don’t know where you’d go next? All your friends work there…?
Define your reasons for inaction and demand the truth from yourself.
The Burden of Proof
Try approaching your goals and ambitions from the opposite direction for once. Instead of getting lost in all the reasons you can’t do something or trying to articulate all the reasons you should, define all the reasons why you shouldn’t.
Why shouldn’t you move to a new city?
Why shouldn’t you go take a new job?
Why shouldn’t you…
Self honesty takes practice. Approaching your life intentionally also takes practice. But you do yourself a disservice if you pretend you don’t have the power to improve your station in life.
The real question is not do you have the power, but are you willing to exercise it?