10 Small Goals.

I struggle setting realistic goals.

When I don't live up to the expectations I get disappointed in myself. Then I'm too hard on myself. So I set even more outlandish goals to compensate for missing the goals.

Hell, sometimes I just set too many goals. Or I set them and lose interest. Or I get in a rut. Or I forget about them.

Goals can be great. There's nothing like crossing a big goal off a list. Or they can kill you if you don't keep them in check.

So I'm trying something new. No timelines. No expectations. Just a short list of small personal goals.

I believe today each goal below will add happiness to my life. I may complete them. I may replace them with different goals. These are what I'm contemplating today.

10 Small Goals:

  • Learn to crack an egg with one hand. Because I enjoy cooking and want to make fewer messes.
  • Bench press 225 pounds 10x in one set. Because I want to get back in peak shape and this one will take commitment.
  • Write 5 thank you notes. Because I would like to practice gratitude.
  • Perform an act of service for a stranger for nothing in return. Because I'd like to work on compassion.
  • Meditate once per day for 5 minutes (for 5 days). Because I'd like to get better at understanding my emotions.
  • Entertain conversation without arguing with someone with a different point of view. Because I would like to get better at listening.
  • Journal about something that made me laugh or something that made someone else laugh. Because life's more fun when I'm not taking myself so seriously.
  • Journal about something I'm struggling with and publish it. Because I'm convinced the best writing is honest - and I'd like to work on that.
  • Journal about something that inspires optimism and excites me and publish it. Because it sounds fun.
  • Journal descriptively about a happy memory. Because I want to.

 

 

 

 

Gym Rat

Are you done with that bench or can I have a turn? I've been waiting all day to get on my burn.

I'm tryna get strong because inside I feel weak. But pretending it won't take me months 'til I peak.

If you don't like what you see in the mirror, lean muscles don't hurt, but neither does beer.

In the gym like in life consistency rules; also true is that you'll meet lots of tools.

The most you can hope for is not to be one and to always remember life's best when it's fun.

Masquerade.

Put on your mask. Hide underneath.

Else others will see you. They’ll see that you bleed.

 

Dress up. Choose your costume. Conceal your real name.

Then no one can stop you from fortune or fame.

 

Hide as anonymous. One lost in the crowd.

Control who gets glimpses. Even then only shrouds.

 

Deny all your struggles. Lie about your pain.

Others will see them. That’s unwanted shame.

 

Hide from the horror of losing what’s loved.

If they see your true colors. They’ll leave you. They’ll run.

 

The mask is the safest. A tested disguise.

Though you can see past it might trick others’ eyes.

 

Masks grant perfection; protection from pain.

A shield to your weakness; an umbrella in rain.

 

Hide from your feelings and abstracts like love.

Keep the world beneath you. And let nothing above.

 

So put on your mask. Don’t you dare take it off.

Or the world will hurt you. And hurting will cost.

——

 

If I take off the mask I’ll stand so exposed.

The truth to confront from my head to my toes.

 

This mask cages demons. It’s darkness, despair.

Yet I long for the sunshine, the wind in my hair.

 

I. DON’T. WANT. THIS. MASK!

The world must see. This is who I am.

And my soul must break free.

 

--- M.E.

2016 and counting…

I moved 1,200 miles across the country this year, but it hardly captures the ground I've made.

I'm a (human) gestation period through a yearlong personal and professional development program. (See Praxis). Since January, I've been apprenticing under the Founder & CEO of a tech/accounting startup–which recently closed a $4.2M Series A funding round. (See Ceterus). I've experienced unprecedented growth as part of both. It's been the most difficult, stressful, chaotic, roller coaster ride I've ever taken. These have also been the most rewarding, invigorating, fulfilling, and actualizing months of my life.

During this time I've gained exposure to all the nitty-gritty business of doing business. I've also come to recognize the brilliance of people passionate at work to create solutions. I've seen the trenches and served on the frontline of what I consider to be a great entrepreneurial endeavor. I've experienced a few victories. And I've come to know defeat. I see both as allies for learning now.

I've never felt more limber than I have these few months. I've never felt more open to possibility.

In the past six months, I've:


This is merely a snapshot of the things I've been doing. It hardly does justice to all the learning that's been happening behind the scenes. It's been an incredible journey so far.

I couldn't summarize what it's taken to get here.

There have been many long hours, late nights, and early mornings. There have been whole days where I felt like I was banging my head against the wall. There have been weekends where I didn't turn the lights on or leave my apartment and stayed glued to the couch, entirely spent. There have been dozens of late-night ice cream and beer errands.

There have also been some of the brightest, happiest, and most hopeful hours of my life. There have been dozens of "Aha!" moments. There have been countless small victories with violent fist pumps and silent cheers.

And there has been an incredible support network beside me through Praxis, my family, co-workers, and friends.

2016 has been monumental already. I look forward to sharing all that precipitates in the coming months as I continue to grow.

As always, thanks for reading.

Best,

--

M.E.

 

About Mitchell


Mitchell is a cowboy turned startup professional and Director of Marketing @ Crash. He’s a former champion meat grader. Author of Don’t Do Stuff You Hate. Narrator of Why Haven’t You Read This Book? And previously Chief of Staff at Ceterus – where he helped scale a team from 20 to 150 while quadrupling revenue.

He’s radical about creating a better future and helping others do the same. Unsolvable problems and conspiracies are his favorite conversation genres. The keys to his heart – fine Bordeaux and Hemingway novels.

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